We had a 20-minute discussion about why I wanted this. Saying I hadn’t wanted children since I was thirteen. She let me do most of the talking. I explained I knew it wasn’t reversible. She reiterated that back to me. Then simply said, “ I think that’s everything I need. We will get some labs but I will see you on surgery day.” I cried in her exam room. While I don’t doubt that there are a lot of people who regret it afterward, they’re still adults who should have to deal with the consequences of their own informed decisions. It’s no injustice for people to have the freedom to make mistakes. It’s a much bigger decision IMO to decide to have an actual child, and there are barely any restrictions on that.
The regret rate for women who get their tubes tied is only about 20%. It is not nearly high enough to be denying ALL women. And yes, 20% seems like a lot, but the average regret rate for other optional surgeries is at about 8%. It also seems like most of the women who have regret were not aware it was permanent. Better counseling could cut that number way down. But instead, they just think all women are too stupid to know what they want. The regret rate for women under 30 who have never had children is actually even lower, only 6%. It’s fucking ridiculous that women have to wade through so much paternalistic bullshit to make reproductive choices for themselves.