I know it also hurts not to get what you want as a patient, but from a doctor’s perspective it’s harder having remorse over something you did wrong than regretting not doing something (of course i’m not talking about missing a diagnosis here). Doctors are people, with vastly different opinions from one another, so one can always find a different doctor (I know it’s easier said than done). Asking the husband’s permission is just pure bullshit though. I had sex once with my husband per child and got pregnant. After that, I started getting migraines that were connected to my monthly cycle.
The headaches were devastating, I could barely move or stand up. I kept trying to get a hysterectomy approved to stop the headaches. It was 15 years, and a diagnosis of cervical cancer before I got my hysterectomy. The headaches stopped. The sad thing, the insurance company refused to pay for the hysterectomy because they considered it elective surgery because it couldn’t be proved it would help the migraines. The irony was they spent thousands on doctors and medications to help with the migraines, then they spent a lot more when I got cervical cancer.