Since I’ve transitioned I’ve received a lot of the same treatment as your post entails. People randomly being extremely rude to only me but then doing a 180 personality shift for others. I get glared at in public. A few times a few people felt comfortable enough calling me slurs and insults while I was shopping for something. One time earlier in my transition, I even was beaten up and had my nose broken by a man because his wife saw me enter the women’s restroom at the bar.
The worst part of all of this is that I’m white. I know POC still often receive much worse treatment. I don’t get why so many people think it’s OK to treat others so poorly. At the same time as I mentioned, I also understand how many folks don’t realize the extent of bad things are until they experience it themselves. I know that’s no excuse but… yeah.