It’s possible I stewed on this for so long it became a bigger issue to me than it actually was. I think I’m going to suggest that I pursue individual therapy for a while, since hundreds of people have pointed out that the problem is with me and not him or our relationship.
It’s been 2 years, I don’t think this is a sign of something dangerous. It’s not uncommon to have a life-altering revelation after drugs. It’s uncommon for someone to change and stick to it. I don’t think there’s any cause for alarm.