When the husband and I first got together, I was a bit of a circus attraction with his in law’s world, since I didn’t fit the WASPy housewife stereotype like the rest of the women in his family did. Can’t really get much more diverse than NYC, but in terms of “daily acknowledgment of my skin color really doesn’t play into my daily life”? Texas has been the best.
Frankly? That type of attitude is largely indicative of the former. Certain jobs have a habit of attracting certain personalities. Not all doctors are like this by any means, but the whole “I’m a god who doesn’t have time for “petty” shit like mere mortals do” thing has been an all-too-frequent occurrence for both me and the husband.